How did we get here? We started dating in college and moved in together after about five years of dating. Our sex life was pretty active and a lot of fun for a couple in our early 20s, but when he proposed the idea of an alternative lifestyle I was turned off at first and didn’t like the idea of it at all.

I’m a very jealous person, so the concept of sharing was something that was really uncomfortable for me. Nevertheless, I thought I would give it a try we signed up for adult friend finder. I began to come around and realized it was so much fun browsing through different profiles and starting conversations with other couples. It was quite some time before we actually worked up the courage to meet somebody off the website. There were a lot of nerves and excitement involved but we finally decided to move outside the virtual real and meet live. Before we decided to select someone to meet with we set some ground rules. We excluded single males and females, instead focusing on meeting a like minded couple. Further, we told ourselves that this first meeting was just to meet / greet and that nothing was actually going to happen physically. For me there needs to be a connection mentally, not just physical attraction.

The couple we ended up meeting was about 15 years older than us and gorgeous. We really spent most of the evening discussing how they make it work, I had many questions about their history, preferences and ground rules. We had many libations and lots of good conversation but that’s where it ended that night.

For me, the excitement of that night left me wanting more and I was eager to explore more adventures within the “alternative” lifestyle. No doubt as with most things in life each relationship comes with its ups and downs, so it was a few months of chatting before our next meeting. We finally took it to the next level with this couple by heading to the local strip clubs a few times with me playing with him afterward… they were very patient and helped us figure out what works for us and what doesn’t.

We’ve experienced a lot of “firsts” with this couple and about 6 months later they invited us to our first swinger house party that they were hosting. It’s one thing to engage with a couple one-to-one, so the nerves were definitely amped up, but we decided to take a leap and accepted! Needless to say our eyes were opened to a new world of fun and my “hot wife” adventure was just beginning…