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While our decision to seek out single males seemed like the right next step, it wasn’t all roses and sunshine. When we decided to test going out and finding a single guy we were excited about finding a dynamic that worked for both me and my husband. At the aforementioned party we met a gentleman who was very hot and sexy. He was really fun to be around and made me feel electrified in and out of bed. We went out a few times alone without my husband and had a great time. Exploring a new sexual landscape with my “boyfriend” was titillating, but soon we realized that while the sex with single guys was great, it wasn’t nirvana.

After a few months of getting together a few times per month, something terrifying occurred. During the course of our relationship, we had primarily communicated via text messages. As time went we began to email each other on a separate email account he had opened for his swinging escapades. Out of the blue one day I received an email from this gentleman’s ex-girlfriend who proceeded to state that she had HIV and she wanted to let me know. I flipped out and didn’t really know what to do. To be safe, I immediately rushed to the doctor to get a full screen of testing done. It turns out that it was a vindictive ex spreading false information. Nevertheless I let the gentleman know what had transpired and he explained that she had broken into his email and contacted all his lovers in spite to disrupt his life. I felt relieved that it was a lie, but it was a reminder of the dangers that are omnipresent. Further it was strike two in bad endings to what was supposed to be a lifestyle that enhanced our sex life. Finally it underscored the need to practice safe sex during every encounter as one never knows what activities your partners are engaged in and with whom.

Bottom line, I was learning what I wanted out of this swinging lifestyle. I really enjoyed the drama free orientation that the couples brought to the table, but still wasn’t over my jealousy enough to do a full swap. With respect to single males, we determined that we needed to be more selective and find mature and respectful men, which has typically led me to gentleman a bit older than me.

The next part of our journey was extremely exciting. As the anticipation built, we talked day and night about how we thought it would go. Given it was our first time in a party setting, we carefully planned out every detail from grooming to picking out every article of clothing. The whole thing was very sexy and certainly brought us closer together. Nevertheless, we wanted to be mindful of the role hormones play in a party setting and carefully planned out how to ensure that we played safe in the heat of the moment. We also tried to surface all aspects of the scenario to make sure that we felt comfortable and communicated what may happen to set the necessary boundaries. When we arrived at the party we were both extremely nervous and we kind of kept to ourselves. With lots of food and more drinks things became more relaxed. The party started with a woman up against the refrigerator getting undressed as everyone looked on. Clearly we all enjoyed every moment of it and things quickly progressed that night. There were several couples and a few select singles, about 12 people in total. The highlight of the night for me was my amazing orgasm as I was upside down on the recliner getting pleasured by a woman. As the sound of an intense orgasm emanated from my body the entire room stopped to focus on me finishing, belting out moans of extasy.

Virtually the entire night I would look over at my husband, seeking his approval with everything that was going on. Needless to say he was loving every second. However, at one point I looked over and a woman went down and was giving him head. Of course he was enjoying, but given my jealous tendencies, I got extremely upset as he did not run this by me when we discussed comfort levels beforehand.
As fun and hot as the night was, overall we had a huge setback because of the trust issue that my husband had violated. After considerable discussion we decided that maybe the couples thing wasn’t for us until we had built a comfort level amongst all parties. Accordingly, we started look for a single guy to join in our fantasy and that’s what led to the next chapter of this journey.

How did we get here? We started dating in college and moved in together after about five years of dating. Our sex life was pretty active and a lot of fun for a couple in our early 20s, but when he proposed the idea of an alternative lifestyle I was turned off at first and didn’t like the idea of it at all.

I’m a very jealous person, so the concept of sharing was something that was really uncomfortable for me. Nevertheless, I thought I would give it a try we signed up for adult friend finder. I began to come around and realized it was so much fun browsing through different profiles and starting conversations with other couples. It was quite some time before we actually worked up the courage to meet somebody off the website. There were a lot of nerves and excitement involved but we finally decided to move outside the virtual real and meet live. Before we decided to select someone to meet with we set some ground rules. We excluded single males and females, instead focusing on meeting a like minded couple. Further, we told ourselves that this first meeting was just to meet / greet and that nothing was actually going to happen physically. For me there needs to be a connection mentally, not just physical attraction.

The couple we ended up meeting was about 15 years older than us and gorgeous. We really spent most of the evening discussing how they make it work, I had many questions about their history, preferences and ground rules. We had many libations and lots of good conversation but that’s where it ended that night.

For me, the excitement of that night left me wanting more and I was eager to explore more adventures within the “alternative” lifestyle. No doubt as with most things in life each relationship comes with its ups and downs, so it was a few months of chatting before our next meeting. We finally took it to the next level with this couple by heading to the local strip clubs a few times with me playing with him afterward… they were very patient and helped us figure out what works for us and what doesn’t.

We’ve experienced a lot of “firsts” with this couple and about 6 months later they invited us to our first swinger house party that they were hosting. It’s one thing to engage with a couple one-to-one, so the nerves were definitely amped up, but we decided to take a leap and accepted! Needless to say our eyes were opened to a new world of fun and my “hot wife” adventure was just beginning…